How to Coach a Client when they Distort the Facts - A Simple 3 Step Framework July 18, 2011 Reading Time: less than 1 min Share1TweetShare1Pin68 SharesDoes your client keep distorting the facts? Do they focus on the negative or ignore the positive? Are they determined to blame others or themselves or keep jumping to conclusions? They may be using a Cognitive Distortion! To first learn more about what a Cognitive Distortion is, check out our article here. People come to coaching to learn about themselves, to set goals and create a more meaningful life. When your client uses a Cognitive Distortion, it's a great opportunity to raise your client's awareness, reduce unnecessary mental suffering and open up possibilities for them. And when coaching clients around a cognitive distortion, the focus is to raise their awareness and challenge the underlying assumptions. Here is a simple 3-step framework for you to follow: First, it's important to clarify what they are saying, "So, you're saying that the time you spent writing that article is completely wasted because you didn't get it finished in time to submit it?" Secondly, challenge the distortion. "Really? Is that true? Was that time completely wasted?", "What other ways are there of looking at the situation?" Thirdly, open up some options. "Where else could you submit the article?", "What else could you do with the incomplete article", "How did you find writing the article?", "What other criteria could you use to measure how successfully your time is spent?", "What did you learn while writing the article?" The Trick: Is not to try and show up the distortion as being "right" or "wrong". Instead, help your client see that there are other ways of seeing things that may serve them better. In deciding how to proceed, the question to ask yourself as a coach is, "Is this distortion opening up possibilities for your client - or closing them down?" You may also like our: Free Coaching Tool - a handy reference list of the 10 Most Common Cognitive Distortions - to use in session or give out to clients, complete with helpful descriptions and examples of how they are used! Categories: Challenging, Clarifying, Coaching Skills, Coaching Tips, Coaching Tools & Exercises, Questioning, Raising Awareness 4 Comments Mary Livy September 5, 2011 Fantastic value.Thank you so much for sharing this huge amount of knowledge and information.It's amazing. Reply elelsey September 6, 2011 Thanks Mary. Glad you find it helpful! Warmly, EL Reply zory August 31, 2012 Thanks for these wonderful set of tools to be used in coaching. Appreciated them. Reply Emma-Louise August 31, 2012 Thanks Zory - for taking the time to comment - and your kind words! Glad to help. Warmly, EL Reply Leave a Reply Cancel Reply Your email address will not be published.CommentName* Email* Website Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment.