New Motivation Tool! What Words Inspire YOU To Take Action?

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As coaches, we all know that the words we use can significantly impact how we feel. Which words most inspire you to take action? Which words demotivate you?

We all know that using words like "Should", "Ought to" and "Have to" can be demotivating, but do you know how demotivating? What words inspire you the most? Does it make a difference what words you use when it's something you want to do - as opposed to a chore? Well, using a simple scoring system this *NEW* Get Motivated! What Words Inspire You? Coaching Exercise helps your clients understand just that Read More...

SPIRO - A New (To You) Goal-Setting Model

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People seeking change is a powerful driving force in human nature. When clients seek out a coach they're looking for change, so setting effective goals is a key part of coaching. If your clients COULD do it on their own - they would have. Instead they have sought out your help so we need to make sure the goal is achievable, establish whether it's what they really want, see where they're getting in their own way, set specific actions to move them forwards, hold them accountable etc. And a goal-setting model/acronym is really helpful as a framework to help us Read More...

Do You Secretly Procrastinate? Plus How to Procrastinate Healthily (in 5 Easy Steps!)

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Procrastination is not the "black or white" issue I had previously thought; it's not that we are either a "procrastinator" or a "doer" - we can be both. You see, I recently discovered (after 10 years of personal development and coaching) that I was a secret procrastinator. I say secret because I HAD NO IDEA I regularly procrastinated.

Instead I considered myself a "do-er", someone who can be relied upon to do what they say they will. In the last 10 years alone I've moved country, changed careers, built a successful business from scratch, moved again to a small island, built a Read More...

Dr. Albrecht's 5 Types of Fears - What We're Really Afraid Of...

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Whilst some of our fears are basic survival and pain-avoidance, many fears - as we know - are literally in the mind (how many of you are creeped out by the picture of the spider?). And while there are lots of articles out there which list our fears and phobias, it's hard to find a good article that helps us chunk up those fears into useful categories. If we were to group fears together - to try and understand the TYPES of fears we have, what would that look like?

Well, recently I found that a favourite thinker of mine, Read More...

The Most Powerful Word You and Your Clients Need to Relearn if You Want to Succeed!

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We've been taught that it's good to say "Yes", to juggle a million things, to do and achieve as much as we can in as short a timeframe as possible! And as a result, stress and overwhelm are endemic in modern culture.

But the difference between people who succeed and those who don't, between people who enjoy life and people who feel stressed and overwhelmed is not people who say "Yes", but those who are willing to say "No"!

"No" is the most powerful word in the dictionary. And it's nothing new for you. When you were very small, you Read More...

For Real Happiness: Focus on Your Feelings, NOT Goals!

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Contrary what we've been told, achieving our goals does NOT give us lasting happiness. Working towards and achieving goals is the PURSUIT of happiness. Because eventually the euphoria wears off and then we're back where we were before. What will give you LASTING  happiness is learning to deal confidently with difficult situations, feelings and emotions...

That's not to say we shouldn't have goals. Like you, I'm a coach - I LOVE goals! But what's absolutely critical to our LASTING happiness is not goals, but how we deal with life's inevitable problems.

Try this: Imagine for a moment that you are Read More...

Coaches Q&A - What Do I Do With a Client Who is Fixated on Why?

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Coach's Question:

Hi Emma-Louise, I have a client who is fixated on "Why?". They get really trapped in one line of thinking and it's stopping them from moving forwards. I'm wondering if you have a relevant tool that you've created that would help them work through it?

They can be really focused which is great, but focusing on this "Why?" is hurting them and keeping them stuck. If you have anything that they can work on, that would be great.

Emma-Louise's Response:

Hey - great to hear from you! So, this is a toughie. It's so easy to get caught Read More...

Should Coaches (and Therapists) Who Have Depression and Anxiety Be Coaching Others?

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This is a follow-up to the very personal article where I outed myself for having chronic anxiety (still active but reduced), depression (now past thankfully) and ADD (unsurprisingly still very active!).

I thought I would write this follow-up article because one very brave soul left a comment saying among other things, "If someone struggles with severe depression and anxiety, they should not be coaching." The comment was kindly put-together and I believe that many people feel the same way, so here is my follow-up post, I hope you read it with an open mind.

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De-Stress Series: A Simple 4 Step Process to Help Your Clients Cope With Stressful Feelings

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Sometimes our clients come to a session feeling stressed, overwhelmed, guilty, pressured or anxious. It's hard to coach people when they're caught up in these thoughts and feelings, so it can be helpful for us to have a way to help calm them down.

This technique may seem overly simple - but it's often the simplest techniques that work the best...

NOTE: If you have corporate or executive clients this technique is great. You may want to tone down the touchy-feely language (eg. stick to the first 3 affirmations in step 3). AND you may also find this is Read More...

9 Real-Life Examples of Eustress (Good Stress) Your Clients May Need MORE of!

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Usually when we use the word 'stress' we're referring to so-called 'bad' stress or DIStress. But did you know there is a name for good stress?  Eustress, pronounced YOU-stress, is a term coined by endocrinologist Hans Selye who studied the impact of stress on the mind and body. Eu comes from the Greek meaning well or good and suggests that there is indeed such a thing as healthy stress.

So, What Is Eustress and Why is it Important?

Well, without eustress we are not equipped to deal with excitement and/or challenge in our lives.

It's eustress that fuels our successes and Read More...