Usually when we use the word ‘stress’ we’re referring to so-called ‘bad’ stress or DIStress. But did you know there is a name for good stress? Eustress, pronounced YOU-stress, is a term coined by endocrinologist Hans Selye who studied the impact of stress on the mind and body. Eu comes from the Greek meaning well or good and suggests that there is indeed such a thing as healthy stress.
So, What Is Eustress and Why is it Important?
Well, without eustress we are not equipped to deal with excitement and/or challenge in our lives.
It’s eustress that fuels our successes Read More…
Often when our clients say “I don’t know”, they really do know – they’re just unwilling to acknowledge or face the answer. If it was was easy to say aloud they would have done so. There can be many reasons for the “I don’t know”, but if we trust our instincts and explore gently – we may just be rewarded with an Aha moment!
There are any number of reasons for that, “I don’t know” – but most of them are probably a fear of the consequences of stating that answer aloud. Maybe it means they will need to acknowledge Read More…
The best results from coaching come when WE take risks with our clients, when we PUSH the edges of what we might normally ask or say. Of course our clients must do the work and challenge themselves to grow. But it’s also when WE step out of OUR comfort zones as coaches that magic happens. So, stop playing it safe, try one of these coaching ideas and see your coaching break through to the next level!
Here are 7 Coaching Ideas to try: DISBELIEVE your clients. Try, “You remember you said you really wanted this? Well I don’t believe you. Read More…
Who doesn’t love powerful questions? Well if you’re at all like me, you’ll get excited when you find a great new coaching question to add to your collection.
So, here are 10 (13 actually!) powerful coaching questions to unblock your clients!
What do you NOT want me to ask you? Imagine for a moment that your issue is resolved. How did you get there? So, what do you think you’re SECRETLY afraid of, that’s getting in the way of ________ ? a. What are you ready to change? b. What are you NOT ready to change YET? What haven’t you Read More…
Limiting beliefs are often so much a part of us that we don’t even realise they’re there. In fact, asking a client what their limiting beliefs are could be likened to the metaphor of asking a fish for a glass of water: It’s so much a part of them that they don’t see it.
When our clients are stuck, when they have a goal and are not making progress or when the client is keen, knows what the next step is but avoids or won’t commit to it – it’s often a limiting belief at work. So this is the Read More…
Do you have a client who always blames someone else, who seems to create drama wherever they go or who finds it hard to take responsibility for their role in situations? If so, the simple coaching metaphor of “Pick up the Mirror, not the Magnifying Glass” could help you.
When things go ‘wrong’ it’s very human to want to assign blame – we think this helps us understand what happened and move forwards. And who doesn’t feel better ‘knowing’ the cause – especially if it’s someone else!
But in reality, although assigning blame helps us feel better, it also prevents Read More…
I’ll start by saying that this process is easier to DO than describe but don’t let that put you off! My clients have had really powerful results – and great Aha! moments with this coaching exercise.
Let’s start with the MOST IMPORTANT part!
DON’T ask which value is most important. INSTEAD ask which value they could not be WITHOUT!
This FORCES a true preference rather than getting people caught up in ‘shoulds’. So, just imagining it’s possible for a moment, if you could:
1) ONLY have FUN/HAPPINESS for the rest of your life but NO HONESTY/INTEGRITY or Read More…
I don’t know about you, but ‘Black or White’ or ‘All or Nothing’ thinking is one of the commonest issues I see with my coaching clients. When a client is stuck – it’s often because they are looking at the world through this Black or White thinking filter – called a Cognitive Distortion (check this article out for more info. on what Cognitive Distortions are and a free tool to help you identify them!)
So, the big problem with Black or White thinking is that it forces a ‘Grey’ world full of possibilities, options and ideas into just two choices Read More…
Does your client keep distorting the facts? Do they focus on the negative or ignore the positive? Are they determined to blame others or themselves or keep jumping to conclusions? They may be using a Cognitive Distortion!
To first learn more about what a Cognitive Distortion is, check out our article here.
People come to coaching to learn about themselves, to set goals and create a more meaningful life. When your client uses a Cognitive Distortion, it’s a great opportunity to raise your client’s awareness, reduce unnecessary mental suffering and open up possibilities for them.
And when coaching clients Read More…
Cognitive Distortions are where we focus on particular aspects of an experience (often the ‘negative’ ones) and ignore or discount other aspects – thereby “distorting” our view of the world.
People are usually unaware of how they distort their experience with the words they use. Cognitive Distortions not only limit our choices, but can lead to unnecessary suffering – and sometimes even make a situation worse when we act on incorrect assumptions.
As a coach, Cognitive Distortions are a great opportunity to raise our client’s awareness and challenge their limiting thought processes, allowing us to dig into the limiting beliefs Read More…
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