3 More Ways to Use the Coaching Wheel: Find Calm, Be a Better Parent & Get a Promotion!

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In this latest article all about the Coaching Wheel, we explore 3 specific examples of how to use the Wheel of Life in new ways. First is the Calming Wheel, then the Parenting Wheel and finally the "Get a Promotion" Wheel.

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1) A Calming Wheel for Your Clients

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Stress is endemic in modern life. It's easy to use a Blank Life Wheel to help clients make a plan that calms them—and reduces their stress.


  1. First get clients to identify and label a blank wheel with 8 things that they find calming. Ask something like:
    • What do you do to find calm in life? What do you do regularly to calm yourself?
    • What strategies, actions and techniques do you use?
      • TIP: We're looking for things they can do (or not do!) that calms or helps reduce their stress.
      • TIP: Let clients know these can be things that make them feel better in the moment as well as longer-term habits or activities too.
    • Ask clients to think broadly. If they're struggling to come up with 8 things you can ask them to:
      • Consider the 5 senses (sight/sound/touch/smell/taste).
      • Think back in time: What has worked in the past? What was calming when you were small?
      • Imagine a time recently when you were particularly stressed: What did you do (or not do)?
  • TIP: Some clients may not know what calms them and will find it hard to come up with 8 things for the wheel. If so, this is a great coaching opportunity.
  1. Once your client has a list of 8 items, next ask your client to score out of 10 how powerful each item is as a stress-reducer.
  2. Now review and discuss the resulting scores. Ask questions like:
    • What surprised you?
    • Which technique or strategy do you use most often? Why is this one used the most? How is that working for you (or not)?
    • So which technique works the best and why?
    • What works the least? And why do you think that is?
    • Which technique would you like to do more of? And less of?
    • How could you adapt "calming" item _____ to increase your score?
  3. Finally, wrap-up by brainstorming an action plan:
    • Identify 1-3 actions your client can commit to that'll reduce their stress.
    • TIP: This may mean choosing a new core calming strategy!

Examples of adapting our calming techniques:

  • Your client gives meditation a score of 4/10. They say, "I can't do it at work". Now you can explore ways to adapt this technique, for example, they could change "meditation" to "finding a quiet space to do 3-5 minutes of deep breathing". Now their score jumps to 8/10.
  • Your client has listed eating a chocolate bar/ice cream/chips as a calming activity, but only scores it 3/10 because they end up feeling guilty afterwards. What other ways this could this be implemented? For example, could they eat a SMALL chocolate bar meditatively and give themselves permission to enjoy it? Could they eat a tasty piece of fruit instead? Or perhaps they could begin to recognize when they're comfort eating, and choose to grab their journal instead and comfort themselves through compassionate writing.

TIP: Remember, we don't suggest these ideas! These examples are just to give you an idea or alternative ways your clients could implement calming activities for themselves.

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2) A Parenting Wheel

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Use a Blank Coaching Wheel to help clients prioritise which areas of their parenting to focus on.


  1. Ask clients to label a blank wheel with 8 things they consider important to be a good parent.
    • We don't want our clients simply listing the areas they need to improve.
    • Instead what we want here is for them to ponder in a heartfelt way, the 8 things the client thinks make up being a good parent.
    • If it helps, you can ask them to consider what their own parents did well—and didn't do well—when they were growing up.
  2. Next, ask your clients them to score how well they think they're doing in each area.
    • IMPORTANT: Ask your clients to be kind and patient with themselves as they consider their scores. This is simply a tool to identify and prioritise areas to focus on.
    • TIP: Do not allow your client to use this as an opportunity to 'judge' themselves! If it helps, ask them to imagine that an extremely kind and understanding parenting expert is doing the scoring.
    • TIP: If necessary, remind clients that being here and working with you is a wonderful example of being a good parent (eg. being willing to learn and wanting to improve!)
  3. Review and discuss the resulting scores. Ask questions like:
    • So, as you look at your completed parenting wheel, how do you feel?
    • What surprised you? And what didn't?
    • Which area most needs your attention?
    • And which segment would you be most excited to work on?
  4. Finally, develop an action plan.
    • One option is simply to focus on the areas that have the lowest scores. But my recommendation is to choose 3-4 areas to work with:
      • First ask them to choose 1-2 areas with a high score and then ask how they could boost this area they're good at!
      • Then ask them to choose 1-2 areas with low scores, and come up with an action plan to raise these scores as well.

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3) Get a Promotion at Work Wheel *

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Help your clients get that promotion with a Blank Coaching Wheel!


  1. Ask your client to label the wheel "My Promotion Wheel" (or similar).
  2. Next ask your client to identify 8 key areas they need to be competent in (eg. knowledge/skills) to get their promotion.
    • TIP: Your client may first need to do some pre-work to identify the skills/knowledge needed for the promotion.
    • This might mean some homework like online research, talking to the HR department and/or their boss and reviewing the job specification.
  3. Now ask your client to score how competent they are currently in each area out of 10.
  4. Review your client's competency scores and make an action plan.
    • Clarify whether each 'gap' is a skill or knowledge gap. This will help when it comes to choosing actions!
    • As they look at their wheel scores, what most surprises them? Excites them? Scares them?
  5. Next, explore action ideas!
    1. If a competence is 7/10 or less:
      • How can they raise their competency levels in the areas where they are 7/10 or less?
    2. If a competency is 8/10 or more:
      • How can they highlight their competence and strengths in these areas where they already excel?
  6. Finally make an action plan and identify next steps or actions

* If you like this Promotion Wheel idea, check out our Career Wheel below:

We also turned this popular Promotion Wheel idea into a done-for-you Career Wheel Tool with instructions. Use this exercise to help your clients get a new job or promotion. Now also in our Career Coaching Toolkit!


There may be a difference between how competent your client is seen to be and their actual competence. And, of course, what matters when it comes to getting a promotion is how competent others think they are.

So, if you think your client has some work to do to help others see they are competent and ready for that promotion, then:

  • Ask your client to additionally score how competent they are seen by others (ie. their boss and their peers) to be in each area.
    • TIP: Use a different colour pen on the same wheel so you can see the differences between actual and perceived competence.
  • Now help your client come up with an action plan around boosting how they are perceived by others.


So, that's just a few more ways you can customize the Wheel of Life Exercise for specific types of clients and get the most from this incredibly powerful tool!

If you're new to the Wheel of Life, try this popular:

And here are some more Coaching Wheel customisation ideas:

Finally, you may also like: 54+ Wheel of Life Coaching Questions to Rock Your Coaching Sessions!

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Emma-Louise Elsey has been coaching since 2003 and is the Founder of The Coaching Tools Company and Fierce Kindness.com. She's passionate about coaching and personal development. Originally a project and relationship manager for Fortune 500 companies she combined her love of coaching, creativity and systems to create over 100 brandable coaching tools, forms and exercises including 30+ completely free coaching tools. She now serves coaches and the coaching world through her exclusive newsletter for coaches, Coaches Helping Coaches Facebook Group and many other great tools for coaches, plus resources and ideas for your coaching toolbox. The Coaching Tools Company is an official ICF Business Solutions Partner.

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