How to Look at New Years Resolutions Through a Different Lens | By Inga Michaelsen December 4, 2014 Reading Time: 3 min 30 sec Share2TweetShare5Pin29 SharesThe tradition of New Years resolutions goes back over 4000 years. Babylonians made promises & offerings to their gods at the beginning of the New Year, so the gods might bestow their grace upon them. During Caesar's time in ancient Rome, the first month of the year was named after the god Janus, a two faced god who looked backward into the old year and forward into the New Year. Resolutions were usually of a moral flavor – to be good to each other, to think of others etc. – and in one form or another, the tradition of making New Year's Resolutions continues. Indeed, making New Years resolutions that are centered on the concept of self-improvement is still common. However, without fearing the gods any longer, most of us fail to follow through with what we resolve to do. In fact, the failure rate of those who come up with goals for the New Year is 88% (2007, Richard Wisemann, University of Bristol), even though 52% of those who set out on New Years Resolutions feel confident they will succeed. Let's explore why most people lose their motivation to reach their goals after only a short period of time. The way we approach New Years Resolutions & goal setting is flawed as we most often come from a place of fear. Our inner critic makes us believe that what we previously have done has not been enough. So we create a "To do" list which is based on things we SHOULD be doing to correct the parts we like least about ourselves - what a "good" person would do. Obviously, these goals are coming from a place that is sabotaging our resolve. They are stressful to pursue, often uninspiring, and drain ones motivation. However, if you observe closely beneath the surface, goals are always about creating a change in how we want to feel. This year I want to invite you to clarify how you'd like to feel in 2015. Once clear on those feelings, you can envision those accomplishments and experiences that could make you feel that way. Let me use an example. One of my coaching clients struggles with obesity. Her goal is to lose weight by doing her exercise program regularly and not eating junk food. When she explored the feelings she actually desired - the feelings that lay underneath this goal - this is what came up for her: she wanted to feel a sense of accomplishment and pride, to feel self-respect and love. She wanted to feel the joy she gets walking her dogs without being out of breath; she wanted to feel freedom. Not only did she become clear on how she wanted to feel, she also started to come up with different pathways to reach those desired feelings that were not limited to her original goal. She could take the dogs for a walk making the round a little longer everyday. She could stand in front of the mirror and feel grateful for who she was. Create a support group that will exercise two days a week with her. Celebrate small accomplishments. Make a weekly meal plan. Envision how she wanted to feel (feel it, smell it, taste it). You see, if we attach ourselves to a very particular goal - we can get stuck. However, once you focus on your desired feeling you will find that there is always an abundance of paths to what you want to create in your life. Your list of possible "to dos" becomes meaningful. And you can start right NOW. So look at your list and ask your self why that goal is on there. What's the desired feeling underneath? Then question yourself further: What can I do today that gets me into this feeling? What do I need to stop doing to get me into this feeling? What new thoughts would get me into this feeling? What thoughts get in the way of feeling this way? When you get clear on how you want to feel, your decisions on what to do get informed by the heart of the matter. You start to see that life is full of opportunities to feel exactly the way you want to feel! A great book to learn more on this topic is the "Desire Map" by Danielle LaPorte. She is a modern day goddess with tones of inspirational wisdom. May your 2015 be blessed with infinite possibilities, a healthy mind, body and spirit and far exceed your expectations! Contributing Author: Founder of Conscious Business Evolution, Inga Michaelsen, CPCC, mentors heart-centred entrepreneurs in making more money while making a difference. Take her Passion to Profit Assessment and learn how infuse your business with more Passion, Purpose and Profit. Also, check out her website and say hello to Inga on her Facebook Page. If you like this article about feelings and new year's resolutions, you may also like: Resolutions, Schmesolutions... Why New Year is an Ideal Time to Get New Clients! 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