Don't Wear Out, Create Some 'You' Time Every Week!

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Do you or your clients have a problem with saying “Yes” (or trouble saying “No”) so you end up feeling totally overwhelmed? Well, until recently I did. I said “Yes” to far too many things (granted, these were things I wanted to do – but there were just so many of them). I squeezed in the time to do them all BUT felt overwhelmed, struggled to relax and found it hard to get to sleep!

Have you heard the saying, “The bow kept forever taut will break”? In Christian tradition, God rested on the 7th day, universities have a Read More…

Here are 10 Spring Themed Coaching Questions to Help Review and Freshen up our Lives!

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While on a walk in the woods this morning, I saw winter’s accumulated garbage and litter everywhere. It looks strangely depressing next to the beautiful purple and orange crocuses and yellow narcissi. Everywhere I look, things are budding and coming into leaf – and the garbage glares accusingly at me.

Garbage and clutter: They’re almost the same thing. In fact, did you know that the word “clutter” is derived from a 15th Century English word – clotter – a variant of clot? The word clot has described collections of dead bodies, cats (presumably stray ones), narrow, crooked, dark and dirty Read More…

3 New Ways For You to Use the Wheel of Life in Relationships!

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The “Wheel of Life” may be ‘old hat’ to many of us, but it’s endlessly flexible. Did you know that the categories we use on the Life Balance Wheel can be used to help make decisions on everything from life partners to new careers? And that a Blank Wheel can be used to help evaluate decisions?

So, with Romance in the Air, Here are Three (3) Ways You Can Use The Wheel of Life in the Relationships Arena: 1. Understanding which Qualities in Another Person Most Positively Impact our Lives

Do you have a client, friend (or yourself!) looking for Read More…

Get Potential Clients to Choose YOU: Use this Simple Hidden Treasure Concept!

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Many of us (by us I mean coaches and people who want to help others and make a difference) think sales is complicated, hard, a chore or worse – something somehow beneath us that we shouldn’t have to do.

Selling coaching IS challenging. First, people must WANT coaching (something they don’t necessarily understand!) AND they must want to coach with US (someone they don’t know!) Phew! No wonder it can be hard to get clients.

And all around us I see how big (and small) companies manipulate people into buying. I don’t know about you, but I don’t want Read More…

The 15 Coaching Questions You Need to Create Your Best Year Ever!

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These 15 Goal-Setting Questions will help you create your best year ever. Set aside 30 minutes, settle in somewhere snug and warm with a cuppa (or glass of wine) and relax. Answer the questions below – and then all you need to do is take action!

First, REFLECT and Take Your Learnings Forwards: What worked WELL for you in 2013? – What do you WANT to keep doing, or do more of, in 2014? – So, what WILL you keep doing, or do more of, in 2014? What did NOT work for you in 2013? – What do you WANT Read More…

Use These Questions to Help Your Clients Spot Where They are Blocking Themselves!

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Have you ever had a client who keeps (supposedly) committing to action, but never seems to get it done? I know I have. Well, often our clients are blissfully UNaware of how they are sabotaging themselves and getting in their own way. And with your client’s permission (ie. assuming they are as curious as you are as to why they’re not getting on with something) this powerful questioning process will help uncover where you client is limiting or holding themselves back.

I have used this questioning process or coaching exercise with quite a few of my clients, and although at Read More…

Coaches Q&A - What Do I Do With a Client Who is Fixated on Why?

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Coach’s Question:

Hi Emma-Louise, I have a client who is fixated on “Why?”. They get really trapped in one line of thinking and it’s stopping them from moving forwards. I’m wondering if you have a relevant tool that you’ve created that would help them work through it?

They can be really focused which is great, but focusing on this “Why?” is hurting them and keeping them stuck. If you have anything that they can work on, that would be great.

Emma-Louise’s Response:

Hey – great to hear from you! So, this is a toughie. It’s so easy to get caught Read More…

Coaching Tools 101: What Is The Urgent Important Matrix? And How Does It Work?

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The Urgent Important Matrix is a powerful productivity and time management tool to help people manage their time more effectively. It’s great for a wide spectrum of coaching from career, executive and business coaching to life and even spiritual coaching. It’s a great model to share with youth and anyone who is disorganized to help them be more focused – and it’s a compelling experiential tool to use in a workshop or seminar.

So, what is The Urgent Important Matrix?

Well, Former US President Eisenhower used this so-called “Eisenhower Principle” to organize his tasks. He is quoted as saying, “What Read More…

How Serious IS Your Client About Their Goals? 5 Quick Tests!

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Especially when our clients have BIG goals in mind, it’s important to help set them up for success by exploring if they really want their goal – and how committed they are. Also, sometimes with big goals, it’s easy to lose our enthusiasm somewhere along the way.

So, whether you have a client just starting out or whether they’ve just lost their way a little, here are 5 quick tests to explore how serious your client REALLY is about their goals! THE SIMPLE COMMITMENT TEST: A great place to start is to be totally obvious and ask, “So, how Read More…

Use Affirmative Writing To Get Clients Unstuck And Connected To Their Goals | by Guest Author Lynda Monk

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Whether you’re a coach, counselor, therapist or social worker, affirmative writing is a great exercise to offer your clients who are making changes and attempting to bridge the gap from where they are to where they want to be. And it’s also a great journaling exercise for your own self-care and visioning.

Affirmative writing is where we write to bridge the gap between our current reality and our desired outcome, whether it’s events, goals, feelings, situations or something else. We write as if these things are already so – including our feeling state. Tip: Feelings are the magnet when it Read More…