We're such a goal-oriented culture. People get a thrill from achieving their goals - but are all too quickly straight onto the NEXT thing. As coaches we help people set goals - but part of our job is also to help people take stock and celebrate their achievements. And the crossover into a new year is a great place to help your client pause and celebrate their success - what they've achieved.
Why is it so important to celebrate success and applaud the hard work we've put in to achieve our goals and dreams? Well, it's inspiring of course! Plus it helps us take ourselves more seriously and develop confidence and healthy pride - as well as give us proof that we are learning, growing and succeeding in life (even when our inner critics might be telling us otherwise).
Not only that, but as humans, we seem to have a habit of focusing on what's wrong - instead of what's right! Well, as coaches we can really make a difference by taking the time to celebrate success with our clients.
"Celebrate what you want to see more of." Thomas J. Peters
STEP 1) Ask your clients to make a list of everything they've achieved this year using these 7 Coaching Questions to help you:
- "What were your biggest achievements this year?"
- "What are you most proud of?"
- "What have you achieved that has surprised you?"
- "What 'smaller', less obvious things are you proud of achieving this year?"
- "What steps have you made towards larger goals, that you need to acknowledge yourself for?"
- "What did you fail at or make a mistake on that needs recognizing? What did you learn and what are you proud of in how you handled it?"
- Finally ask, "What will you do to celebrate, recognize and acknowledge your achievements?"
Tip: Use the 4 Ws. What, When, Where and Who you would like to celebrate with?
Coaching Tip: You can do this with them as an exercise, or discuss the concept and give it as homework. OR, why not create a session to help your client celebrate their success - and honour themselves?
STEP 2) Then decide HOW to Celebrate Success:
The second step is to make sure that once they've done the list they actually celebrate their success. It could be a personal ritual, a dinner out with someone special, a hike up a mountain, buying themselves something special, a massage, a group event. Help them brainstorm celebration ideas and rituals and then commit to one. The more significance it has for them, the more uplifting and memorable it will be!
"People of our time are losing the power of celebration. Instead of celebrating we seek to be amused or entertained. Celebration is an active state, an act of expressing reverence or appreciation. To be entertained is a passive state - it is to receive pleasure afforded by an amusing act or a spectacle... Celebration is a confrontation, giving attention to the transcendent meaning of one's actions." Abraham Joshua Heschel
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