12 Leadership Qualities, Using Coaching to Develop Leadership, Tools to Help You!

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I’ve noticed an increase in the requests for Leadership Tools over the last 18 months or so. With a challenging economy for so many businesses, more transparency via social media and the internet (disgruntled customers and employees make their thoughts and experiences public!), and more and more reports that prove leadership qualities are good for the bottom line – organizations want leaders!

But what’s interesting is that when I ask what leadership tools people are looking for, or what they want help with – I’m getting a big fat zero. Businesses want leaders, leaders want coaches, and coaches want tools Read More…

3 Types of Successes People Rarely Stop to Recognize

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Ben Renshaw in his mini-book, “The Secrets of Happiness” says that, “On average by the age of eighteen we will have been praised and encouraged 30,000 times – and most of this … by the time we are three. By contrast we will have been criticised and discouraged over 250,000 times.” Well, it’s no wonder we’re so focused on what goes wrong!

Not only that but for most of us growing up, our parents and teachers focus on our lowest scores, our mistakes and our failures – so that we can ‘improve’. And then when we make it into the Read More…

Do Your Clients Make this Rejection Mistake? And a Powerful Tip!

Rejection is painful for many of us. And it can be even more painful when it’s something we worked hard towards or really, really wanted. And that makes it even more important that we learn from our rejections. If it’s something important to us, if we truly did our best, or are getting rejected repeatedly we need to ask why we got turned down.

Apart from the obvious learning we get from feedback, think about this: “No” does not necessarily mean “No FOREVER”! A “No” may become a “Yes” under certain conditions – but for this to happen we Read More…

Have Your Clients Got Psychic Skills or Are They Just Making Assumptions?

When a client comes to me feeling bad about themselves because they were rejected I like to startle them with a question, “Well, are you psychic?” Because unless they’re psychic they won’t know the REAL reason they were rejected – they are just making assumptions.

We all like to think we can mind-read; they think I’m unattractive, annoying, a loser, they don’t like me because I’m too THIS or I’m not enough THAT. But one thing is common – these are all ASSUMPTIONS. And when it comes to rejection, making negative assumptions only makes us feel worse.

Of course there Read More…

How to Help Clients Handle Rejection Beautifully - 5 Reframes to Really Give Them Something to Think About!

Why the big deal with rejection? If you think about it, when someone is rejected nothing actually changes: Before your client asked someone out they had no date, and after they have been ‘rejected’ they still have no date.

As coaches, we know the power of perception and belief, but many of our clients do not. Over the years I have come to deeply realize that what ultimately drives us is not logic or ‘reality’ – but how we think and feel about things. Even what’s right in front of our eyes is interpreted according to our beliefs about ourselves Read More…