Do Your Clients Make this Rejection Mistake? And a Powerful Tip!

Rejection is painful for many of us. And it can be even more painful when it’s something we worked hard towards or really, really wanted. And that makes it even more important that we learn from our rejections. If it’s something important to us, if we truly did our best, or are getting rejected repeatedly we need to ask why we got turned down.

Apart from the obvious learning we get from feedback, think about this: “No” does not necessarily mean “No FOREVER”! A “No” may become a “Yes” under certain conditions – but for this to happen we Read More…

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February 27th, 2012 | Tags: Asking for Feedback, How to Handle Rejection | Category: Coaching Tips, Raising Awareness, Reframing, Rejection | 2 comments

Have Your Clients Got Psychic Skills or Are They Just Making Assumptions?

When a client comes to me feeling bad about themselves because they were rejected I like to startle them with a question, “Well, are you psychic?” Because unless they’re psychic they won’t know the REAL reason they were rejected – they are just making assumptions.

We all like to think we can mind-read; they think I’m unattractive, annoying, a loser, they don’t like me because I’m too THIS or I’m not enough THAT. But one thing is common – these are all ASSUMPTIONS. And when it comes to rejection, making assumptions usually makes us feel worse.

Of course there are Read More…

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February 21st, 2012 | Tags: Assumptions, How to Handle Rejection, Making Assumptions, Mind-Reading | Category: Coaching Techniques, Raising Awareness, Reframing, Rejection | 5 comments

How to Help Clients Handle Rejection Beautifully - 5 Reframes to Really Give Them Something to Think About!

Why the big deal with rejection? If you think about it, when someone is rejected nothing actually changes: Before your client asked someone out they had no date, and after they have been ‘rejected’ they still have no date.

As coaches, we know the power of perception and belief, but many of our clients do not. Over the years I have come to deeply realize that what ultimately drives us is not logic or ‘reality’ – but how we think and feel about things. Even what’s right in front of our eyes is interpreted according to our beliefs about ourselves Read More…

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February 7th, 2012 | Tags: How to Handle Rejection, Reframing, Rejection | Category: Beliefs, Coaching Tips, Feelings & Emotions, Reframing, Rejection | 3 comments