9 Real-Life Examples of Eustress (Good Stress) Your Clients May Need MORE of!

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Usually when we use the word ‘stress’ we’re referring to so-called ‘bad’ stress or DIStress. But did you know there is a name for good stress? Eustress, pronounced YOU-stress, is a term coined by endocrinologist Hans Selye who studied the impact of stress on the mind and body. Eu comes from the Greek meaning well or good and suggests that there is indeed such a thing as healthy stress.

So, What Is Eustress and Why is it Important?

Well, without eustress we are not equipped to deal with excitement and/or challenge in our lives.

It’s eustress that fuels our successes Read More…

Coaching Tools 101: Handle Rejection Like A Pro With These 10 Top Tips!

Rejection is utterly unavoidable in life. So why do people spend so much time and energy trying?

Well, it hurts of course! But it doesn’t need to… In order to minimize the pain of rejection, we can help our clients find a way to avoid taking rejections personally.

Here are 10 of my Top Tips to help your clients handle rejection:

There isn’t a “Handle Rejection” strategy that works for everyone in all circumstances. Each circumstance is unique – so help your clients find time for reflection, self-compassion and learning. Fearless repetition! Help your clients learn to think like Read More…

Do Your Clients Make this Rejection Mistake? And a Powerful Tip!

Rejection is painful for many of us. And it can be even more painful when it’s something we worked hard towards or really, really wanted. And that makes it even more important that we learn from our rejections. If it’s something important to us, if we truly did our best, or are getting rejected repeatedly we need to ask why we got turned down.

Apart from the obvious learning we get from feedback, think about this: “No” does not necessarily mean “No FOREVER”! A “No” may become a “Yes” under certain conditions – but for this to happen we Read More…

Have Your Clients Got Psychic Skills or Are They Just Making Assumptions?

When a client comes to me feeling bad about themselves because they were rejected I like to startle them with a question, “Well, are you psychic?” Because unless they’re psychic they won’t know the REAL reason they were rejected – they are just making assumptions.

We all like to think we can mind-read; they think I’m unattractive, annoying, a loser, they don’t like me because I’m too THIS or I’m not enough THAT. But one thing is common – these are all ASSUMPTIONS. And when it comes to rejection, making negative assumptions only makes us feel worse.

Of course there Read More…

Another Tool to Handle Rejection, Self-Esteem!

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For me, one of the things that makes handling rejection difficult is the seemingly hardwired link between rejection and our sense of self. In other words, when people feel rejected they allow it to negatively affect how they see themselves.

We are brought up to live by other’s rules – in the home, at school, at work. We’re encouraged to fit in and do as we’re told – and that means paying a lot of attention to what others think. We’re not encouraged to develop our own beliefs – or a strong sense of self. So, when we get rejected Read More…

How to Help Clients Handle Rejection Beautifully - 5 Reframes to Really Give Them Something to Think About!

Why the big deal with rejection? If you think about it, when someone is rejected nothing actually changes: Before your client asked someone out they had no date, and after they have been ‘rejected’ they still have no date.

As coaches, we know the power of perception and belief, but many of our clients do not. Over the years I have come to deeply realize that what ultimately drives us is not logic or ‘reality’ – but how we think and feel about things. Even what’s right in front of our eyes is interpreted according to our beliefs about ourselves Read More…